He asked if I had a girlfriend

This is one of 24 positive reports from the book ‘And Then I Became Gay:’ Young Men’s Stories.
[Case 1](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-01/) | [Case 2](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-02/) | [Case 3](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-03/) | [Case 4](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-04/) | [Case 5](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-05/) | [Case 6](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-06/) | [Case 7](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-07/) | [Case 8](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-08/) | [Case 10](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-10/) | [Case 11](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-11/) | [Case 12](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-12/) | [Case 13](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-13/) | [Case 14](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-14/) | [Case 15](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-15/) | [Case 16](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-16/) | [Case 17](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-17/) | [Case 18](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-18/) | [Case 20](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-20/) | [Case 21](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-21/) | [Case 22](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-22/) | [Case 23](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-23/) | [Case 24](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-24/) | [Case 25](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-25/) | [Case 26](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-26/)

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The cases 9 and 19 where a negative experience for the boy and are therefore not included in JUMIMA. They can be read in the article linked below or in the book.

Source: Rind, B. Gay and Bisexual Adolescent Boys’ Sexual Experiences With Men: An Empirical Examination of Psychological Correlates in a Nonclinical Sample. Arch Sex Behav 30, 345–368 (2001). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1010210630788

Note. Quotes for cases 1, 3, 4, 8, 10, 11, 14, 18, 20, and 25 were taken from Savin-Williams’ (Savin-Williams, 1997) book—page numbers are provided. Other quotes and descriptions were obtained directly from Savin-Williams. Ages of subjects and older partners when the sexual relations began are provided after the case numbers. A few subjects had additional sexual contacts with other men (Case 1 at age 14, then 15; Case 4 at age 17; Case 9, three more at age 16; Case 21, two more at age 17). Details were not recorded for these episodes.

Case 14 (boy 16, man 23). With a neighbor. “…he felt like my mentor, like my chaperon, that he was going to lead me out of my state of wilderness… We went for a walk and we were smoking cigarettes. He asked if I had a girlfriend and I said, ‘No,’ and then he asked if I had a boyfriend and I said, ‘No.’ Later, at his house, he started kissing me and suddenly everything clicked—this is homosexuality! He declared himself, that is, he had tagged himself. I pushed him away but I wanted to do it. I left … and then I just cried. He apologized two days later and then he began crying and we did it in a very loving, emotional way. Now we’re the best of friends after this put some distance between us. During the process I kept saying, ‘Is this what it is? Is this what it is? Do I like it? Do I like it?’ And the answers were, ‘Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!’ It did confirm my sexual identity because I enjoyed it so much” (pp. 88, 89).