He wanted youth and I wanted age!

This is one of 24 positive reports from the book ‘And Then I Became Gay:’ Young Men’s Stories.
[Case 1](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-01/) | [Case 2](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-02/) | [Case 3](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-03/) | [Case 4](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-04/) | [Case 5](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-05/) | [Case 6](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-06/) | [Case 7](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-07/) | [Case 8](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-08/) | [Case 10](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-10/) | [Case 11](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-11/) | [Case 12](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-12/) | [Case 13](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-13/) | [Case 14](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-14/) | [Case 15](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-15/) | [Case 16](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-16/) | [Case 17](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-17/) | [Case 18](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-18/) | [Case 20](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-20/) | [Case 21](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-21/) | [Case 22](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-22/) | [Case 23](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-23/) | [Case 24](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-24/) | [Case 25](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-25/) | [Case 26](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-26/)

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The cases 9 and 19 where a negative experience for the boy and are therefore not included in JUMIMA. They can be read in the article linked below or in the book.

Source: Rind, B. Gay and Bisexual Adolescent Boys’ Sexual Experiences With Men: An Empirical Examination of Psychological Correlates in a Nonclinical Sample. Arch Sex Behav 30, 345–368 (2001). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1010210630788

Note. Quotes for cases 1, 3, 4, 8, 10, 11, 14, 18, 20, and 25 were taken from Savin-Williams’ (Savin-Williams, 1997) book—page numbers are provided. Other quotes and descriptions were obtained directly from Savin-Williams. Ages of subjects and older partners when the sexual relations began are provided after the case numbers. A few subjects had additional sexual contacts with other men (Case 1 at age 14, then 15; Case 4 at age 17; Case 9, three more at age 16; Case 21, two more at age 17). Details were not recorded for these episodes.

Case 18 (boy 16, man 46). “I answered a personal ad. He wanted youth and I wanted age! I’m ‘slender, fun-loving, and cute’; he was ‘bearded, masculine, and worked out.’ We were together for ten months until I finally came to Penn State. I never lived with him. I’d go there to Pittsburgh maybe once a week or once every two weeks. He was very conservative and didn’t want to take me out publicly. He hates outward displays of affection and he didn’t want people to think he was my father. He sends me holiday and birthday cards. I think of him as my uncle. It was good for the time” (p. 164).